"The Doctor Who Was In A Hurry"

This is shared by one of my best friend….really touchy and have lot to learn from it

Greetings to you this Morning……

"The Doctor Who Was In A Hurry"

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call asap, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy's mother going and coming in the hall waiting for the doctor. On seeing him, the mother yelled:

"Why did you take all this time to come? Don't you know that my son's life is in danger? Don't you have the sense ...of ...responsibility?"

The doctor smiled and said:

"I am sorry, I wasn't in the hospital and I came the fastest I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you'd calm down so that I can do my work"

"Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??" said the mother angrily.

The doctor smiled again and replied: "I will say what Job said in the Holy Book "From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of God". Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God's grace"

"Giving advice when we're not concerned is so easy" Murmured the mother.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, "Thank goodness!, your son is saved!" And without waiting for the mother's reply he carried on his way running. "If you have any question, ask the nurse!!"

"Why is he so arrogant? He couldn't wait some minutes so that I ask about my son's state" Commented the mother when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: "His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son's surgery. And now that he saved your son's life, he left running to finish his son's burial."

Moral:- Never Judge Anyone Because You never know how their life is & what they're going through!

Nice Thoughts

A Layman's 10 Commandments. Great Reading.

A Layman's 10 Commandments. Great Reading.

Someone has written these beautiful words. Must read and try to understand the deep meaning of it.

They are like the ten commandments to follow in life all the time.


1] Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.


2] Why is a Car's WINDSHIELD so large & the Rear view Mirror so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, Look Ahead and Move on.


3] Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes years to write, but only a few seconds to burn.


4] All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long either.


5] Old Friends are Gold! New Friends are Diamond! If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a Base of Gold!


6] Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!


7] When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.


8] A blind person asked St. Anthony: "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!"

9] When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.


10] WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's TROUBLES, it takes away today's PEACE.

15 Styles of Distorted Thinking

15 Styles of Distorted Thinking

Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. Polarized Thinking: Things are black or white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you're a failure. There is no middle ground. Overgeneralization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once you expect it to happen over and over again. Mind Reading:  Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine how people are feeling toward you. Castastrophizing: You expect disaster. you notice or hear about a problem and start "what if's". What if tragedy strikes? What if it happens to you?" Personalization: Thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who's smarter, better looking, etc. Control Fallacies: If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you. Fallacy of Fairness: You feel resentful because you think you know what's fair but other people won't agree with you. Blaming: You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem or reversal. Should: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you and you feel guilty if you violate the rules. Emotional Reasoning: You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you feel stupid and boring, then you must be stupid and boring. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hope for happiness seem to depend entirely on them. Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment. Being Right: You are continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness. Heaven's Reward Fallacy: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You feel better when the reward doesn't come Checklist for Hidden Anger Procrastination in the completion of imposed tasks. Perpetual or habitual lateness. A liking for sadistic or ironic humor. Sarcasm, cynicism or flippancy in conversation. Frequent sighing. over politeness, constant cheerfulness, attitude of "grin and bear it". Smiling while hurting. Frequent disturbing or frightening dreams. Over-controlled monotone speaking voice Difficulty in getting to sleep or sleeping through the night. Boredom, apathy, loss of interest in things you are usually enthusiastic about. Slowing down of movements. Getting tired more easily than usual. Excessive irritability over trifles. Getting drowsy at inappropriate times. Sleeping more than usual / maybe 12 to 14 hours a day. Waking up tired rather than rested or refreshed. Clenched jaws or grinding of the teeth / especially while sleeping. Facial tics, spasmodic foot movements, habitual fist clenching and similar repeated physical acts done unintentionally or unaware. Chronically stiff or sore neck or shoulder muscles. Chronic depression... extended periods of feeling down for no reason. Stomach ulcers.

You hate your life; while some dream of having your life!!!

What gives a man or woman the right to lead?

What gives a man or woman the right to lead?

It certainly isn’t gained by election or appointment. Having position, title, rank, or degrees doesn’t qualify anyone to lead other people. And the ability doesn’t come automatically from age or experience, either.

No, it would be accurate to say that no one can be given the right to lead. The right to lead can only be earned. And that takes time.

The key to becoming an effective leader is not to focus on making other people follow, but on making yourself the kind of person they want to follow. You must become someone others can trust to take them where they want to go.

Eight Gifts that Do Not Cost A penny!

Eight Gifts that Do Not Cost A penny!

 
1. THE GIFT OF LISTENING...
    But you must REALLY listen.
    No interrupting, no daydreaming,
    No planning your response.
    Just listening.

2. THE GIFT OF AFFECTION...

    Be generous with appropriate hugs,
    Kisses, pats on the back, and handholds.
    Let these small actions demonstrate the
    Love you have for family and friends.

3. THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER...

    Clip cartoons.
    Share articles and funny stories.
    Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you."

4. THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE...
    It can be a simple
    "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet.
    A brief, handwritten note may be remembered
    For a lifetime, and may even change a life.

5. THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT.. .

    A simple and sincere,
    "You look great in red,"
    "You did a super job,"
    Or "That was a wonderful meal"
    Can make some one's day.

6. THE GIFT OF A FAVOR...
    Every day, go out of your way
    To do something kind.

7. THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE...

    There are times when we want nothing better
    Than to be left alone.
    Be sensitive to those times and give
    The gift of solitude to others.

8. THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION. ..
    The easiest way to feel good is
    To extend a kind word to someone.
    Really, it's not that hard to say,
    Hello or Thank You.

Do u know abt d things which live after death?

hi . . . Do u know abt d things which live after death? Eyes-31mins Brain-10mins Legs-4hrs Skin-5days Ear-10mins Bones-30days but . . . . . but . . . but . . but, Friendship-4ever So keep in touch . . . ! !

One Thing To Never Forget

Your presence, is a present to the world.

You're unique and one of a kind.

Your life can be, what you want it to be.

Take the days, just one at a time.

Laws of Etiquette

Its a list of different rules of etiquette written over 100 years ago and some of the suggestions are a bit archaic and random, the advice is still strikingly resonant. It manages to cover many, many of the gaps in etiquette which have transformed society into a veritable Swiss cheese of incivility. If a man puts these suggestions into practice, he will definitely set himself apart for the other knuckleheads out there trying to land a job or catch the eye of a good looking gal.

Heres to becoming more refined gentlemen & Women!

• Never exaggerate.
• Never point at another.
• Never betray a confidence.
• Never leave home with unkind words.
• Never neglect to call upon your friends.
• Never laugh at the misfortunes of others.
• Never give a promise that you do not fulfill.
• Never send a present, hoping for one in return.
• Never speak much of your own performances.
• Never fail to be punctual at the time appointed.
• Never make yourself the hero of your own story.
• Never pick the teeth or clean the nails in company.
• Never fail to give a polite answer to a civil question.
• Never question a child about family matters.
• Never present a gift saying that it is of no use to yourself.
• Never read letters which you may find addressed to others.
• Never fail, if a gentleman, of being civil and polite to ladies.
• Never call attention to the features or form of anyone present.
• Never refer to a gift you have made, or favor you have rendered.
• Never associate with bad company. Have good company, or none.
• Never look over the shoulder of another who is reading or writing.
• Never appear to notice a scar, deformity, or defect of anyone present.
• Never arrest the attention of an acquaintance by touch. Speak to him.
• Never punish your child for a fault to which you are addicted yourself.
• Never answer questions in general company that have been put to others.
• Never, when traveling abroad, be over boastful in praise of your own country.
• Never call a new acquaintance by their first name unless requested.
• Never lend an article you have borrowed, unless you have permission to do so.
• Never attempt to draw the attention of the company constantly upon yourself.
• Never exhibit anger, impatience or excitement, when an accident happens.
• Never pass between two persons who are talking together, without an apology.
• Never enter a room noisily; never fail to close the door after you, and never slam it.
• Never forget that, if you are faithful in a few things, you may be ruler over many.
• Never exhibit too great familiarity with the new acquaintance, you may give offense.
• Never will a gentleman allude to conquests which he may have made with ladies.
• Never be guilty of the contemptible meanness of opening a private letter addressed to another.
• Never fail to offer the easiest and best seat in the room to an invalid, an elderly person, or a lady.
• Never neglect to perform the commission which the friend entrusted to you. You must not forget.
• Never send your guest, who is accustomed to a warm room, off into a cold, damp, spare bed, to sleep.
• Never enter a room filled with people, without a slight bow to the general company when first entering.
• Never fail to answer an invitation, either personally or by letter, within a week after the invitation is received.
• Never accept of favors and hospitality without rendering an exchange of civilities when opportunity offers.
• Never cross the leg and put one foot in the street-car, or places where it will trouble others when passing by.
• Never fail to tell the truth. If truthful, you get your reward. You will get your punishment if you deceive.
• Never borrow money and neglect to pay. If you do, you will soon be known as a person of no business integrity.
• Never write to another asking for information, or a favor of any kind, without enclosing a postage stamp for the reply.
• Never fail to say kind and encouraging words to those whom you meet in distress. Your kindness may lift them out of their despair.
• Never refuse to receive an apology. You may not receive friendship, but courtesy will require, when a apology is offered, that you accept it.
• Never examine the
  cards in the card-basket. While they may be exposed in the drawing room, you are not expected to turn them over unless invited to do so.
• Never, when walking arm in arm with a lady, be continually changing and going to the other side, because of change of corners. It shows too much attention to form.
• Never insult another with harsh words when applied to for a favor. Kind words do not cost much, and yet they may carry untold happiness to the one to whom they are spoken.
• Never fail to speak kindly. If a merchant, and you address your clerk; if an overseer, and you address your workman; if in any position where you exercise authority, you show yourself to be a gentleman by your pleasant mode of address.
• Never attempt to convey the impression that you are a genius, by imitating the faults of distinguished men. Because certain great men were poor penmen, wore long hair, or had other peculiarities, it does not follow that you will be great by imitating their eccentricities.
• Never give all your pleasant words and smile to strangers. The kindest words and the sweetest smiles should be reserved for home. Home should be our heaven.

Wishing you a happy life ahead!